![]() “ We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. No matter how painful, we learn to move on and let go. It could also be the other way around, and we’re the ones left behind. One day, we may gain the momentum to walk a bit faster, moving on without our friend. The friendship struggles because we could no longer stand by each other the way we did before. We may also find out how we’ve grown into totally different kinds of people. We may develop new hobbies and lose our common interests. Through the years, we may discover different paths. You may want to visit your favorite library, but your friend often excuses herself because she would go trekking or mountain-climbing with her other friends. You want to go to the movies, but you remember that your friend told you how she never really enjoys watching them anymore. It could also happen that you just wake up one day not knowing what you and your friend could enjoy doing together. You miss the times you could just laugh and play without any worries. Your friend may have decided to take life more seriously and you miss all the exciting things you did together. One day, however, you just realize that one of you has changed. ![]() You may both be carefree and fun-loving, not minding at all what would happen in the future. When your relationship with your friend was formed, you were walking along the same path, and most probably, you were also walking toward the same destination. Sometimes, we have to adapt to our present struggles and we change our priorities. Along the way, we discover dreams we never thought we had. There are times when it’s not the physical distance that separates us from our friends but the distance of our growth as individuals. “Friends are people who go on conspiratorial shopping sprees together, diving in and out of shops totally beyond their price range, and ending up eating oozing cream cakes with only just enough money to get home.” - Pam Brown If I had to give a piece of advice to a young man about a place to live, I think I should say, ‘sacrifice almost everything to live where you can be near your friends.’” - C. Certainly to me it is the chief happiness of life. “Friendship is the greatest of worldly goods. It weakens it without our awareness until that day when we finally realize how it has claimed some of the most valuable friendships we’ve ever had. We also tell ourselves that much has changed with the world’s technology, and we can still communicate with each other in a heartbeat wherever we may be.īut distance changes things. We convince ourselves that we could still see each other now and then. We may not want it to happen, but whenever we decide to live far from our friends, we’re also putting our friendships at the risk of being torn apart. It’s when we need to live elsewhere so we could follow our dreams. It’s when we need to go to another school or another town. One of the most common reasons for losing friends is physical distance. “Go often to the house of thy friend for weeds soon choke up the unused path.” - Scandinavian Mythology If friends share the same soul, how then do we lose a part of our souls? How does it happen? When do friendships really end? 1. Lewis, The Four Loves How do we lose our friends? “In this kind of love… ‘ Do you love me?’ means ‘ Do you see the same truth?’” - C.S. For what would you do once your soul could no longer be one? And that’s why it’s so painful to lose them. But how could anyone be a good company to you when they cannot look into your soul?įriends understand one another’s soul, that’s the full meaning of it. But how do you trust someone who cannot share the core of who you believe you are? They say that friendship is camaraderie. They help us find the truth we’re looking for.Īnd that is why all the other qualities that other people say about friends depend only on this very foundation. Friends help validate our perspective about life and the world we live in. This is one reason why friendships are so vital. It is to see a soul that is almost like a mirror of my own, a soul who can see things in almost the same way that I see it. To find a friend is to find someone like myself, someone who is very similar, yet a bit different somehow. “The typical expression of opening Friendship would be something like, ‘ What? You too? I thought I was the only one. Losing a boyfriend was painful, but losing a friend made me question what human relationships were supposed to be about. I have spent more sleepless nights over friendships lost than over romantic relationships that failed. If you have experienced losing both, however, would you agree? Was it any less painful when you’ve lost your friend?ĭigging from my own experience, I can say this: that I have wept more and anguished more over losing a friend than over losing a boyfriend.
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